When You Meet The Right Person At The Wrong Time | Thought Catalog
When you meet the right person, it doesn't matter if you have a million other things going on in your life. So, your life is already a shit storm, you're busy at school. I know I did. I have to answer anonymously because I don't know who may read this. It was my first day at a new job and I was being shown round the building. There's no perfect way to deal with meeting the right person at the wrong time, but don't let your emotions convince you that you don't have.
Updated October 21, Lately, I find myself unable to write about heartbreak. Believe me, this subject is still relevant to me. I hear my friends complaining to me about their dreadful dating lives all the time and how elusive it is to find love in this era.
When You Meet The Right Person You’ll Realize How Easy It’s Supposed To Be
That two years ago, I was in a perpetual heartbroken state feeling lost and hopeless. My head was confused by the mixed signals, the complication, and drama. And my heart was hurting all the time. Even in the bliss of a thrilling new romance, I was plagued with insecurity and doubt. Ugly thoughts were relentless and I could seek no reprieve. What if he stops loving me? I was cynical that anything good would happen to me. And when the relationship eventually ended as how I predicted from the start, I sprang into action taking care of my wounded self and battered soul.
I loved abrupt endings and unresolved endings. Wants are negotiable, needs are not. Wants include things like occupation, intellect, and physical attributes such as height, weight, and hair color.
For example, it may be more important to find someone who is: Curious rather than extremely intelligent.
Curious people tend to grow smarter over time, while those who are bright may languish intellectually if they lack curiosity. Sensual rather than sexy. Caring rather than beautiful or handsome. A little mysterious rather than glamorous.
Humorous rather than wealthy. From a family with similar values to yours, rather than someone from a specific ethnic or social background. Needs are different than wants in that needs are those qualities that matter to you most, such as values, ambitions, or goals in life.
These are probably not the things you can find out about a person by eyeing them on the street, reading their profile on a dating site, or sharing a quick cocktail at a bar before last call. What feels right to you? When looking for lasting love, forget what looks right, forget what you think should be right, and forget what your friends, parents, or other people think is right, and ask yourself: Does the relationship feel right to me?
Concentrate on activities you enjoy, your career, health, and relationships with family and friends. When you focus on keeping yourself happy, it will keep your life balanced and make you a more interesting person when you do meet someone special. It always takes time to really get to know a person and you have to experience being with someone in a variety of situations.
Be honest about your own flaws and shortcomings. Besides, what you consider a flaw may actually be something another person finds quirky and appealing.
Time is to Blame When You Meet the Right Person at the Wrong Time
Build a genuine connection The dating game can be nerve wracking. But no matter how shy or socially awkward you feel, you can overcome your nerves and self-consciousness and forge a great connection. Focus outward, not inward. Staying fully present in the moment will help take your mind off worries and insecurities. No one likes to be manipulated or placated. Rather than helping you connect and make a good impression, your efforts will most likely backfire.
Make an effort to truly listen to the other person. Put your smartphone away.
When You Meet The Right Person You’ll Realize How Easy It’s Supposed To Be | Thought Catalog
Put a priority on having fun Online dating, singles events, and matchmaking services like speed dating are enjoyable for some people, but for others they can feel more like high-pressure job interviews. And whatever dating experts might tell you, there is a big difference between finding the right career and finding lasting love.
Instead of scouring dating sites or hanging out in pick-up bars, think of your time as a single person as a great opportunity to expand your social circle and participate in new events. Make having fun your focus.