Crossing Thresholds and Becoming Equal Partners - ensign
which was established to help meet the members' educational needs. When we have a knowledge of the people and world around us, we can use that. Here are some little things to do to help make your marriage partner's life a little brighter Always speak positively about the people your husband works with. As indicated in a footnote to Genesis in the LDS edition of the Bible (note 18b), the Hebrew term for the phrase “help meet for him” ('ezer kenegdo) literally .
Respond to the temporal and spiritual needs of others. Be modest, and humble, and counsel with your husband before making final decisions on important matters. What A Husband Might Do 1. Love the Lord and let your wife know it.
Role of Man and Woman
Love your wife and let her know it often. Extend to her all the courtesies you did while you were courting her. Tell her she is attractive to you. Continue to date her frequently. Surprise her with little things, like flowers. Bathe the children occasionally. Keep the children busy while your wife prepares dinner. Help with the heavy cleaning waxing the floors, washing walls, etc.
Surprise your wife occasionally and fix breakfast. Help her rotate the food supply. Help prepare dinner on Primary days. Do little chores around the house willingly. Be sure the household appliances are working properly. Allow her time with her friends. Have patience when she cannot understand why you may be gone so often.
Listen to her ideas and discuss her interests and questions. Plan a vacation together—both of you, alone. Plan the future with her. Encourage her in her church work. Help her find time and privacy for herself. But when she sees his face fall as he looks around, she defends herself: Will you please fix this macaroni and cheese and help with the kids? At this crossroads of their busy day, these two have some choices. Will they use this moment to practice being the kind of companion each has covenanted to become?
Or will each one default to past conditioning—familial and cultural? Certain attitudes and ideas have crept into the very air they breathe, challenging them as they try to work with each other rather than against each other. Suppose he grew up with a father who was a dominant husband and a mother who was a subordinate wife. Take off your tie and sit down. Her mother is grateful to live in a day when women no longer feel pressured to conform to a rigid, self-sacrificing role that seems to deny their sense of self.
Perhaps her mother, even her father, would say that a smart wife keeps boundaries around how much of her time and self she will give to support her husband and children because she first needs to look out for herself and her personal priorities in this new age of female freedom.
But the restored gospel teaches the eternal idea that husbands and wives are interdependent with each other. The incorrect idea in Christian history that wives should be dependent began with the false premise that the Fall of Adam and Eve was a tragic mistake and that Eve was the primary culprit.
We honor rather than condemn what they did, and we see Adam and Eve as equal partners. The modern liberationist idea that married people are independent of each other is also incorrect.
It typically claims that there are no innate differences between men and women or that, even if some differences do exist, no one has the right to define gender-based roles. In some ways, the excessive selflessness of the dependent wife allowed and perhaps even encouraged male domination.
The concept of interdependent, equal partners is well-grounded in the doctrine of the restored gospel. The original Hebrew for meet means that Eve was adequate for, or equal to, Adam. A ruler can be a measuring tool that sets standards. Then Adam would live so that others may measure the rightness of their conduct by watching his. Being a ruler is not so much a privilege of power as an obligation to practice what a man preaches. Perhaps because false teachings had twisted original scriptural meanings, President Spencer W.
She is to follow him [only] as he follows and obeys the Savior of the world, but in deciding [whether he is obeying Christ], she should always be sure she is fair. If the husband and the wife are wise, their counseling will be reciprocal: And in an equal-partner marriage both also bring a spiritual maturity to their partnership, without regard to gender.
Both have a conscience and the Holy Ghost to guide them. We support your wonderful efforts. We are grateful to receive the benefit of your counsel and insights in challenges we share as partners.
And we thank you as mothers or potential mothers for your partnership with God in providing life. Without women, the whole purpose of the creation of this world would be in vain. This truth we learn from scriptures about the priesthood, the Creation, Adam and Eve.
The Lord then revealed that Abraham was one of them, chosen and foreordained before he was born. Scriptural verse then continues: You will recall that after the earth had been created, divided, beautified, and inhabited with plant and animal life, the crowning achievement of the Creation was to be man—the human being. The very purpose of creation was to provide bodies, to enable these eagerly awaiting spirits to enjoy mortal life and experiences.
What was the role of the priesthood in the process of creation? The Prophet Joseph Smith taught: Widtsoe, Salt Lake City: Thus, priesthood is the power of God.
Its ordinances and covenants are to bless men and women alike.
How was Eve 'an help meet' for Adam? | LDS Living
By that power, the earth was created. Under the direction of the Father, Jehovah was the creator. As Michael, Adam did his part. He became the first man. But, in spite of the power and glory of creation to that point, the final link in the chain of creation was still missing.
All the purposes of the world and all that was in the world would be brought to naught without woman—a keystone in the priesthood arch of creation. From the rib of Adam, Eve was formed see Gen. Interesting to me is the fact that animals fashioned by our Creator, such as dogs and cats, have thirteen pairs of ribs, but the human being has one less with only twelve. I presume another bone could have been used, but the rib, coming as it does from the side, seems to denote partnership.
The rib signifies neither dominion nor subservience, but a lateral relationship as partners, to work and to live, side by side. Adam and Eve were joined together in marriage for time and for all eternity by the power of that everlasting priesthood see Gen. Eve came as a partner, to build and to organize the bodies of mortal men. She was designed by Deity to cocreate and nurture life, that the great plan of the Father might achieve fruition. She was the first of all women.
From our study of Eve, we may learn five fundamental lessons of everlasting importance: She labored beside her companion see Moses 5: She and Adam bore the responsibilities of parenthood see Moses 5: She and her partner worshipped the Lord in prayer see Moses 5: She and Adam heeded divine commandments of obedience and sacrifice see Moses 5: She and her husband taught the gospel to their children see Moses 5: From these five fundamental lessons, we can study patterns which apply to present-day circumstances.
Let us review them, lesson by lesson. She labored beside her companion. Adam held the priesthood.
Eve served in matriarchal partnership with the patriarchal priesthood. So today, each wife may join with her husband as a partner unified in purpose.
Marvelously, it takes a man and a woman to make a man or a woman. Without union of the sexes, neither can we exist, nor can we become perfect. Ordinary and imperfect people can build each other through their wholeness together. The complete contribution of one partner to the other is essential to exaltation.
So labor and love in partnership. Any sense of competition for place or position is not appropriate for either partner, especially when enlightened by scriptural understanding.
As Adam bore responsibilities of fatherhood, so Eve bore the responsibilities of motherhood. She did not shirk them. So with welcome arms you may gratefully greet those children God may send, through your divine design as cocreator.