30 Ways To Meet New People (Best Ways To Meet New Friends)
Making friends in your 40s may seem like a challenge, but it doesn't have If you want to meet new people, try heading to your local watering. “Hi Celes, I have a small group of friends as I'm a shy person. I'm not really confident enough to go out and meet new people. I would like some advice on how I. Sometimes, as much as you want to have friendships, you'd just rather curl up with a book than attend some social gathering or meet-up with a group of.
The first six months felt like an extended vacation, but as winter set in and the novelty wore off, I began to miss my friends in earnest. When you're in your twenties, meeting new people doesn't seem so daunting. I had a full-time corporate job in a big city, and there were plenty of opportunities and fun places to meet new people. But now I work from home in a small town, and I'm past the point of hanging out at clubs or bars to find friends.
I've had to stretch myself to find a new tribe of people in my new home town. Finding new friends isn't always easy and comfortable. Sometimes, as much as you want to have friendships, you'd just rather curl up with a book than attend some social gathering or meet-up with a group of strangers.
Especially for introvertsit takes a lot of emotional energy to put yourself out there. But you can't go belly up and remain a hermit forever. You have to find places to meet new people.
Here are 30 painless ways to meet new people and develop friendships: This is how Ron and I met our new best buddies here in Asheville. There are tons of beautiful hikes nearby, and we spotted a couple on the path of one long hike who were sociable and about our age. When you're on the trail with someone, it's easy to strike up an authentic conversation without the distractions of daily life. When you're surrounded by the beauty of nature, it inspires connection.
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If you enjoy hiking, meeting people on a trail means you've found a friend who shares your passion for the great outdoors. That's one point in their favor already. Just remember, before you go your separate ways to suggest getting together again. Get involved in a sport or activity club. If you don't meet someone on the trail by yourself, join a hiking club where you hike with others.
If hiking isn't your thing, you can join a running or biking group, a softball team, or a tennis league. Find a group who shares a physical activity you enjoy and become a regular. Strike up conversations with other members and suggest meeting for coffee, wine, or beer after an event or meeting.
Join a book club. If you love books, a book club is a wonderful way to meet new people with a similar interest. You can find book clubs through your local bookstore, online, or through Meetup. If you don't find the right fit for you, start your own club and invite other members to join. There are so many fun opportunities for volunteering with large groups of people where you might find your tribe. Volunteer in areas that are meaningful and interesting to you.
You can volunteer as a coach, for a cultural event, or for a local art show. Whatever kind of group activity interests you, you'll find it at MeetUp. Scroll through the various events in your city to find something that lights your fire, or type in your interest and see what's available.
I've found book clubs, networking groups, and social groups through MeetUp. Talk to your neighbors. Sometimes the people we're looking to meet are in our own backyards.
Have you reached out to your neighbors lately? If you see your neighbor working in the yard, walk over and offer to help. Or make a little extra soup or an extra dozen cookies and walk them to the family down the street.
By extending yourself just a little, you might meet some wonderful new friends within a short walk of your home. Wherever you happen to be — in line at the post office, at the grocery store, or at a concert, start a conversation with someone around you. Have a few conversation starters handy so you always have something to say to kick off a conversation.
Yes, this might be uncomfortable at first, but if the other person is friendly and responsive, it might be the beginning of an interesting connection.
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Ron and I have a beautiful white collie named Scotch. He's unusual because he's white collies are usually black and tanand he really is a handsome guy. When we take him on a walk, we get stopped by nearly everyone we pass. Taking your dog for a walk gives new people a reason to stop and talk to you. Other dogs will be naturally curious and drag their owners over to say hello in doggie language.
If there's a dog park in your community, take a ball or frisbee and have an outing with your pet. The odds are good you'll meet people that are fellow dog lovers. Sit at community tables. Find restaurants that have community dinner tables or bar tables. Rather than isolating yourself at a two-top, sit at the community table and meet new people seated nearby. Reach out on Facebook or other social media.
I reached out to a few and have met up for coffee. Through Facebook, you may discover some old friends or acquaintances that you didn't know lived nearby. Host your own casual dinner party or open house and invite your neighbors, people from work, or acquaintances you've bumped into along the way.
Invite them to bring a friend along so you expand your potential circle of new connections. You don't have to do anything elaborate. Make a pot of soup or order a few pizzas.
The point is to simply bring people together and expand your circles. Find a business association. Are there groups or associations related to your career? Research local business events and attend them so you can network professionally and personally. Go to a cultural event.
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Become an annual member of the symphony, local theater, or ballet. Attend the performances as well as the fundraising and member events. Strike up conversations with other attendees who are there because they appreciate the arts just like you. If you prefer visual art, visit your local galleries, talk with the owners or managers, and discuss the art with other guests.
One of the best ways to meet people is in a class at the gym. But if classes aren't your thing, spend time in the weight room when it's busy so you can converse with other gym rats. If there's a cafe or juice bar at your gym, hang out for a bit after your workout and connect with other members.
Wooing By this point, you have someone or a few people in your life who you think might make a great friend. You want to pursue them, go on some dates, spend more time together. Here we borrow a saying from weddings. In the States, most brides wear four unique items on their wedding day for luck or just for fun. I find this is an easy way to think about different types of wooing.
Do you have an old favorite? This is a great way to have an excuse to hang out. For example, just recently I was talking to a new potential friend about my favorite and the only, in my opinion genuine Mexican restaurant in Portland. I was planning to go on Friday. I made friends with my friend Stephanie because we both had been dying to try something new: We both were bemoaning how awful the gym was when she said she had heard about a cool Bollywood Dance class. Then it was easy for me to ask if she wanted a partner in crime to try it out.
We also have tried a cardio drumming class and a cook-around-the-world night. Want to try something new? Bring it up and see if they are interested in joining. This is both a fun tease and a woo. Friends lend us ideas, books, clothes, suitcases and time. This is another great way to feel out a new friendship. Have a book you love? Offer to loan it to them. My friend Samantha was wearing the most beautiful shawl—it looked so warm and fuzzy!
If you know something that might help someone else, offer to teach them. Are you a whiz with resumes? Offer to edit it for your new friend. Are you a great cook? Have a cooking day with a new friend if they are trying to learn their way around a kitchen. I started a Spanish vegetarian cooking club exactly this way. Seven of us got together because we all were trying to practice our high school Spanish and learn to cook more vegetarian.
We all go through hard times. It might be you, it might be your new friend. You want foul weather and fair weather friends—those who are with you through the good times and the bad. This is a great way to know the depth of your potential friendship.
I never will forget a time with my friend Lacy in the beginning of our friendship. Speaking of weddings, I was having a momentary freak out about my wedding dress. I was sure I had picked the wrong one. I hear this is normal. Anyway, I called her in the middle of the day and asked her if she would be willing to come with me while I tried on my wedding dress one last time. She took the workday afternoon off, schlepped across town with me and sat with me, being so incredibly supportive as I made her examine it from every which angle.
Yes, it was the right one. Yes, she is my best friend today. Dating Now comes the serious part. You have someone you like and slowly have been courting them. Most importantly, you want to know if you are good for each other. Over the next few weeks, go through more of the wooing steps and ask yourself these three essential questions: Could you be locked in an elevator with this person? Are they genuinely happy for you when something good happens to you?
Toxic relationships happen when we secretly have ill wishes for someone or they have them for us. They get jealous, they get judgy, they get controlling. You can be different, but you have to love each other for your differences. This is the most amazing, fulfilling, mushy-gushy part of friendships.
I think this is the part of the friendship where investment really pays off. What do I mean by investment?