"In this book, Beverly Engel clearly and with caring offers step-by-step strategies to The Emotionally Abusive Relationship will tell you how to identify emotional . The Paperback of the The Emotionally Abusive Relationship: How to Stop Being Abused and How to Stop Abusing by Beverly Engel at Barnes. Read the full-text online edition of The Emotionally Abusive Relationship: How to Stop In this book, Beverly Engel clearly and with caring offers step-by-step.
I also knew that I was in a constant battle of emotional abuse in my current relationship. However, I knew I wasn't innocent, and I knew he wasn't either. We played off of each other.
When one person was emotionally abusive, the other person would just emotionally abuse them later. We both came from parents that emotionally abused us. After reading this book, I realized that we were both reenacting our pasts in an attempt to solve them and end up with a better outcome. I have some similarities with his mother and he has some similarities with my father. However, he doesn't see it this way.
That's why I needed to find this book, so I could attempt to discover ways to change my patterns, and hopefully, in turn, change his as well. It's only been a couple days, but I already notice a difference in how I perceive my feelings and how he reacts to my words.
When he insults or degrades me, I point it out assertively but not painstakingly and he admits to it, and stops. I have a lot of hope that our relationship will benefit from this.
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I know we can get past our communication challenges. It was an amazing book.
May have saved my life. I was in despair in my relationship, thanks to this book I came to recognize what was actually going on and my part in it and what I could do to change it. Still don't know if this relationship will work, however it has improved significantly and, I personally, have made significant progress.
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Who was your favorite character and why? Easy Listening Was there a moment in the book that particularly moved you? Many Any additional comments? Must read for anyone in a conflicted relationship. Her wisdom can be relationship saving and even life saving!
By the most broad definitions, everybody is abusive at some point in their life As opposed to The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans, this book was fair, even and dedicated to working toward a solution. By the most broad definitions, everybody is abusive at some point in their life to some degree.
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When you recognize that certain behaviors are abusive--or shall we say, they cross a boundary? A lot of people cross boundaries with good intentions and with very light hearts. It's understandable and easy to forgive.
Others do so maliciously to control others--and I find that behavior sickening and demeaning. This book accentuated the fact that "abuse" is a term which describes an entire continuum of behaviors, from mildly annoying to severely damaging.
From that point of view, I found it very uncomfortable because it made me a tad paranoid about myself and other people. A friend would make a sarcastic joke and I would think, "That was abusive" instead of "Good old so-and-so.
Or was that verbal abuse? Or neither--maybe just me feeling frustrated and taking it out on them?!?! I think that this book could be an interesting read for anybody, not just people who have a history of dishing out or accepting emotional abuse. It has a lot of interesting things to think about. The book starts with some broad defining chapters, then moves on to discuss the root of abuse. It talks about how our world is defined so much in our childhood that trauma in our youth can take years to overcome.
Today at my twins' annual checkup, our pediatrician said that this year will be a defining year for the two of them.