Communication and therapy can help steady yo-yo relationships, says prof | Toronto Sun
A turbulent relationship in which at one time your relationship is riding wave of warmth and the next moment anger and hate creeps in. Ally and Nick have been at it for years. They started being in a serious relationship in high school and when they stepped into college and studied in different. If you've ever had a 'relationship' that can't seem to end with a guy that keeps turning up like a bad penny, it's because you're in a 'boomerang.
I told him that he'd better let the divorce proceed this time because I'm tired of this. He thinks it's no big deal to get divorced, and he doesn't understand why I'm so upset. Oh, and the kicker?
He wants to retire in a year and a half and then get married again! Am I crazy, or is he? You're not crazy — but it would certainly be understandable if you were a little crazy after all your husband has put you through.
Though I can't say exactly what's going on in this yo-yo's head, clearly he's only thinking of himself. He's demonstrated a staggering lack of empathy. You need to move on, but he'll make sure that's impossible as long as he's around.
So it's important that you discontinue contact with him until your wounds fully heal. If you don't already have a divorce attorney, consider hiring one.
Communication and therapy can help steady yo-yo relationships, says prof
He or she could be his point of contact so you don't have to be. That would free you up to focus on taking care of yourself.
Make your home a sanctuary. Join a gym; there's nothing like realizing your strength. Designate some "emergency contacts" — friends or family you can call when you feel as if you want to call him. Make it so that when he inevitably tries reeling you back in, he finds you've cut the string.
Relationships On Off Relationships On-again-off-again, push-pull, hot-cold, Yo-yo relationships can be incredibly painful and confusing. I think most people have either experienced this kind of relationship directly, or else know someone who has, so we all know how soul destroying they can be.
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But why can they be so difficult to let go of? From the Beginning The hot-cold pattern can sometimes start at the very beginning of a relationship. You meet him or her, feel a mutual instant attraction, and seem to really click in the personality department. You text or email each other; you talk on the phone; and you might have another date or two. You may even sleep together at some stage. But then somewhere along this timeline things suddenly go very cold.
Dates get called off with thin excuses. All the warmth, and unspoken promises of things to come, suddenly disappear. This can lead to huge hurt and confusion. Unanswered questions tend to create worst case responses in your mind. I was just a sexual conquest. There is something really wrong with me.
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She is warm and passionate and adoring once again, so, of course, you take her back. And once the bruising starts to heal, you relax and the relationship begins to flow freely again. That is until a week or two later, when history repeats itself and once again the trail suddenly goes cold. Back into the depths of confusion and despair you go, until he contacts you again….
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